Last night a relatively new member - who will remain nameless for now, in the hope that he will wise up and think before posting again - made the following reply. It was reported as being offensive (it is) and removed from the thread, but I think the homophobic remark needs to be addressed. (As a side note, for simplicity I used the term "gay" to refer to everyone in the LGBTQ* categories.)
It does not matter if a person is straight or gay, what is getting tedious is all these coming out crap. it is stupid and not needed, keep if you are straight, or gay, or bi, or asexual to ones self.... these cries for publicity are sickening...
and NO this is not an anti-gay rant, It is a rant for all these drama filled coming out announcements, people, no matter their orientation, just live your life and stop shoving what you are in others faces
I cannot begin to tell you how idiotically wrong you are. Attitudes like yours are what helped drive me into the closet for three long decades, and - far worse - helps drive a lot of young gays to commit suicide.
Heterosexuals have no need to "come out" - they
are out. 90% of the population is straight, so of
course they don't need to make any "drama filled coming out announcements." A straight teen doesn't have to go through the "drama" of coming to terms with their sexuality that gays do, since a straight teen isn't going to get grief from anyone for being hetero. They aren't going to have a bunch of jocks gang up and beat the living crap out of them because they are interested in the opposite sex.
Gays have all the same pressures growing up that straights have, plus a host of others. Gays get bullied, beaten, killed and rejected by their families
every damned day. I was lucky in that no one picked on me during high school, but that is because I was (a) a big kid, and (b) I was damned good at hiding who I was. I did know that other kids got picked on by assholes who'd accuse them of being a homo, and I had no desire to face that myself. What "straight" ever has to deal with that?
Gay youths are four times more likely to kill themselves than straight kids. How many kids have been driven to commit suicide because they cannot handle the abuse and rejection that comes when it is revealed that they are "normal"?
Not a damned one. You betray your own homophobia when you say stupid things like "NO this is not an anti-gay rant" followed by "stop shoving what you are in others faces." I'll stop shoving my sexuality in your face when you can figure out how to stop stuffing
your sexuality in
my face.
By the way, you do realize, don't you, that you
could have just done the mature thing and skipped this thread altogether if the subject bothers you? If I took the time to respond to everything on the Internet that bothers me I'd never have time to get anything else done.
I'm not going to ban the author from this site - yet - but I will if there is any more gay-bashing in any form.
* LBGTQ stands for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender and Questioning. I had to look it up myself when I came out, as I couldn't figure out what the heck the Q stood for.